just wondering what the most unusual or flippant reasons are for people being booted from the cong.
i know the org makes out that almost everyone who is ousted is guilty of fornication but they're hardly going to say that people are leaving coz of all the lies, deceit and propoganda they spin!
if your "crime" was apostacy, what exactly happened?
Just wondering what the most unusual or flippant reasons are for people being booted from the cong. I know the org makes out that almost everyone who is ousted is guilty of fornication but they're hardly going to say that people are leaving coz of all the lies, deceit and propoganda they spin!
If your "crime" was apostacy, what exactly happened? And did you get the scriptural 2 warnings first? (Tit 3:10,11)
Am
i just thought i'd briefly introduce myself.
my name is april, i am a navy wife and mother of six children, will be 30 next month, and have been disfellowshipped for almost 12 years.
i was also reproved two years prior to that.
Hi Amama2six,
Welcome. I've just become a mum to a baby boy and one is tough enough! Can't imagine what it'd be like with a half dozen kids!!
Just yesterday I started reading Steve Hassan's book. Its very good and I can see it helping me to get over the hurt being brought up as a JW caused. Might be one worth looking at for helping you to understand what happened and move on.
All the best,
Am
hiya,.
i hope i'm not overstepping the rules here by asking this.
does anyone know where "john may" is these days?
Are there any Irish JW outreach ministries? Can you give me more details? I haven't come across any.
Thanks!
so how did it go some have asked?
at some point the lady therapist asked me what was probably my number one concern....it just came out...."i don't know if i can stay married to a jw"...wife burst into tears...and never let up...not even on the way back to drop me off at work...i also said in session i would prefer an open minded wife, and i don't think wife would pick me now either...not an unbeliever, not an overdrinker, and that marriage to me meant being able to share pretty much everything with one another, my feelings, my friends, my concerns, and that i did not like living a double life...and explained what that was too......she of course said she would stay in the marriage, and mentioned the adultery only rule...so i said it sounds like she feels she is stuck with me...she said it sounds like our marriage is already over....the lady says she does know for a fact that jw's do indeed get divorced without sex sins...cause she has counseled more that one couple like us...one in, one out....that ended with divorce.
i did say nice things about her...said the things i love.....and vice verse...and we both said we wanted the marriage to work....so at least a good basis for continuing the sessions.....the lady wants us to find common ground and just ignore the religious difference for now...i said great but how can we do that when the religion is all encompassing to my wife...it is everything....i will be glad to go to the ground if she can find it....but she never got a chance to find it yet...we ran out of time.
Hi Oompa,
You've got to remember that in the WT articles, the Family Happiness/Life book and other WTS publications, the emphasis is both partners working on the issues. This can lead to a finger-pointing situation between marraige mates "Well, I've done X and I'm not doing anymore til s/he does Y!" The outcome of this childish interaction is more resentment and bitterness and less actual improvments.
I don't know you but reading the posts of others who do, it sounds like you've got plenty of your own issues to work on. Irregardless of what the outcome of your current situation is, you will benefit hugely by getting to it and sorting those things out. Do this work and you might be surprised by a positive reaction in your wife. She might see the efforts you are making and follow suit. Sometimes too much talk can be damaging by brining up bad feeling/memories but there is always room for positive actions that make you a better, healthier person.
I know this isn't easy for you. All the best.
just wondering if active jw's on this forum or jw's just watching this board still put into practice in one way or another, shunning?.
what is the motivation do so?
is it to save face or relationships?
So has anyone on here got DF'd for speaking to a DF?
i was going to post this in the thread about what one comment helped you see the light but it became a bit too long and i thought the subject might be interesting in it's own right.
i've been hanging around for a while feeling like i should tell my story and this thread has caught me at a good time.
i was born in to the religion, baptized at 15, reproved at 17, married at 22, ministerial servant at 25. i'd had questions in my late teens and twenties but i convinced myself that i loved jehovah and wanted to stay and so i squashed those feelings.
Thanks! ;)
http://glumbert.com/media/paildrumming.
holy c@c@!
has this guy got some chops!.
Cool clip.
Btw, what does "bttt" mean?
and why do my post sometimes read "error"?
i'd be well over a hundred & 50 post if it wasn't for that!
I'm still not out of "newbie-dom" as I've had to start over. Some freakish problems with my first profile mean I'm back to square 1!
i was going to post this in the thread about what one comment helped you see the light but it became a bit too long and i thought the subject might be interesting in it's own right.
i've been hanging around for a while feeling like i should tell my story and this thread has caught me at a good time.
i was born in to the religion, baptized at 15, reproved at 17, married at 22, ministerial servant at 25. i'd had questions in my late teens and twenties but i convinced myself that i loved jehovah and wanted to stay and so i squashed those feelings.
Where is the thread you talk about? ie what one comment got you out
Thanks!
hiya,.
i hope i'm not overstepping the rules here by asking this.
does anyone know where "john may" is these days?
Hiya,
I hope I'm not overstepping the rules here by asking this. Does anyone know where "John May" is these days? A bit before my time but he was part of "the great apostasy" in Ireland during the early 80s. An elder in my cong made a comment about him recently so I just thought I'd ask in case anyone knows anything about him.
Thanks,
Am
PS I've been on this forum a couple of months as Am ha-'aret but was having trouble with the profile so I re-signed up. Just off now to ask an admin person to delete the old profile!
